Everything you should know about blow job
Blow Job
To help make sure you’re doing it to the best of your ability, we’re sharing the lowdown on what to do from start to finish.
What to do?
What better way to make a move than some good old-fashioned making out?
Get them primed by kissing and caressing some of their other erogenous zones, like their ears and neck.
Assume your position
As long as you’re both comfortable enough it to enjoy it, there’s no need to try any elaborate sex positions. They can stand or sit while you kneel in front, or they can lie flat on their back while your lips hover above.
Bonus points if your position allows for eye contact. Eye contact is super-hot, shows confidence (also super-hot), and ups the intimacy factor.
Undress if you want to
Unless you’re in a place where you can’t get naked, clothing is totally optional. It’s ultimately down to your comfort levels.
Pull it out while leaving the rest of their clothes intact, or pull their underwear down far enough to reach all their bits.
If the feel of skin on skin helps get you both hot, then go for the full Monty.
How to move your tongue
Anything goes here, really. Use your entire tongue to move your way up and down their shaft.
The tip of your tongue is perfect for zoning in on the smaller and highly sensitive areas. You can use the tip to flick the frenulum, then swirl it around the head before gently bringing them into your mouth.
How to move your mouth when it’s full
Once you bring them into your mouth, focus on choosing a pace that says “mmm, mmm good” rather than “just come and let’s get this over with already.”
Start off slow with light pressure, and gradually increase your pace. If they seem to be getting close to climax, stick with what you’re doing.
How do you know? Their body language!
The hips don’t lie: Pay attention to what they’re doing while you’re going down. Thrusting, holding your head steady, or quivering are all signs that they’re loving it and getting closer to climax.
How to keep your teeth out of the way
Unless you’re trying to bite down, your teeth shouldn’t really be an issue here. But, we get that some people worry about accidental dental contact (we see you, peeps with braces!).
Just focus on letting your tongue and lips make contact. Your teeth will just sort of blend into the background and disappear.
How to use your voice to make the blow job next-level hot
Make some noise! It may be rude to talk with your mouth full, but your sounds tell them you’re loving every inch of them, which is a mega turn on.
It’s not a lick of gelato, so hearty “nom, nom, noms” aren’t necessary.
Moaning, heavy breathing, and even slurping show you’re into it. And the vibration from your mouth will feel amazing for them.
How to take your B-job to rim job territory
Why not take your B-job to rim job territory? Your mouth’s already in the vicinity anyway, so the transition to rimming would be totally natural. Just be sure they’re cool with it before you give it a go.
How to use your hands
Oral is the perfect time to get touchy-feely. You can use your hand to control the depth and show other parts of their body some extra love.
Use your hand to stroke the shaft and let your thumb graze the frenulum as you reach the head. You can continue to do this while licking and sucking.
Put those multitasking skills to the test and use your other hand to gently massage their balls at the same time.
How to incorporate penetration
If you want to slip a finger in their butt and they consent, go for it. Just be sure to use a lot of lube.
Begin by applying gentle pressure to their perineum using the pads of your index and middle fingers, then insert an uber-lubed finger into their anus.
If you’re both cool with it, take rimming to another level by inserting the tip of your tongue into their anus and pushing it in and out.
How to add sex toys to the mix
Slow and lots of lube is the way to proceed when adding toys to the mix.
For example, you can use the tip of a butt plug to tease the opening before slowly inserting it. Keep the butt plug inside while you lick and stroke them for double the pleasure, and possibly even an anal orgasm.
When to stop — or how to keep things going
Unless your jaw is super tired and cramping or they’ve asked you to stop, you don’t have to. It’s totally up to you. Here are some ideas if you’re drawing a blank.
If they want you to keep going
If you’re happy to keep at it, then stick to whatever you’re doing, since it’s probably working.
Increasing your speed and upping your enthusiasm with some well-placed moans and eye contact can help get them there faster.
Things to remember
Bodies are different. Forget what you’ve seen in porn, where the penis is typically big, smooth as an eggplant, and praised for tasting “oh so good” as it’s handled by an equally perfect mouth.
Everyone has an individual smell and taste
Everything from what you eat to the soap you use can affect your unique smell. And you can’t expect to pull a penis out of the cramped confines of pants without some sweat or odor.
A quick shower is usually sufficient to keep things fresh down there. Any odor that’s left is natural and totally fine.
Just like your natural odor, different factors affect how a person’s fluids taste. If someone has a funky taste, there are things they can do to help spruce it up, like drinking more water, eating less red meat, and limiting smoking.
Penises and pubic hairs come in many colors, shapes, and sizes
Penises run the gamut when it comes to physical characteristics.
You’ve got circumcised or uncircumcised. Some are long, others are short. There are dark or pale ones, smooth or ridged ones. It’s all good.
And not all pubes are trim and tidy. Some people have an unruly bush, and that’s totally fine.
Oral sex still has risks
Oral sexually transmitted infections (STIs) exist. Any skin-to-skin contact or contact with bodily fluids can transmit STIs.
And don’t let a healthy-looking package fool you. Not all STIs cause symptoms. Try lowering your risk and give yourself a tasty treat by using flavored condoms.
